About BDSM to the outsider

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Some folks seem to think that all that happens in a lifestyle relationship is the stuff of TPE fantasy. Even still it is not the case, even if it is 24/7. I should say especially 24/7. The normal running of the household has to take place. “Vanilla” day to day activities are a must.
The collar like a wedding ring is a symbol of love, devotion, ownership, obedience, and a host of other things. And in a perfect world, the “slave” could remain home doing chores, or locked away for future use. This is impractable and to some extent illegal. This would only build trust in one direction. There are some that are financially stable enough that can have a true 24/7 live in slave, with nothing else to do but be a slave. The slave would have to give up everything to do so. Selling all their posessions, giving up the past and having nothing but servitude as a future. I will say this sounds lovely, no worries, no stress of life, nothing. But could you do that at an age of 30-50s, after building a life of your own? Some could, most cannot.
Bills have to be paid, lawn mowed, flowers to tend, meals to cook and dishes to wash. Yes some enjoy doing all the chores as impractable as it is. It leaves no time for a home scene, and stresses out the whole system of the D/s dynamic. This stress is unhealthy. Most real 24/7 lifestylers still appear as the normal household to everyone. With all the goodies of the stress, a relationship, jobs that both parties hold, bills etc……
So if you think you would be in a cage, no rights, cares or what ever in this lifestyle, well, you are sadly mistaken. It involves some of that, but is so much more. Its Love, honor, respect, openness, submission, courage, fear and trust. There is so much more i cant even think of. Its more than kissing the feet of the Dominant. Its more than being beaten for pleasure of either party. It allowing someone your deepest darkest secrets whether you are a dominant or submissive. Letting the trust grow by allowing your fears to be played with.
I cant say much more right now. I think i summed it up the best i could. There is much i dont understand, and i am still learning. So dont go thinking its all onesided. It isnt, it requires 2 people. Otherwise you would be masturbating 🙂 😀
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